life in the world of women...

not quite sure where to start with this post but here goes...when I was in college I had a great array of girl friends and it seemed they came from every walk of life. As a little social experiment (I didn't realize it was that until a few years ago) I had all of them meet up and have dinner together. It was a good time and a little interesting to see all of them interact, some mingled and some stuck with who they knew.
Fast forward to the present, I am once again in new place and having to 'start over' with friends, thus begins a new social experiment.
One thing I have noticed is that since my post college 'adult' life its harder to find a group of girl friends that all work well together. Who knew? I am finding this out in the new place as I make new friends that its hard to break into a group of already established friends so you end up with 'fragmented' friendships that potentially could never work together.

Wow and you thought junior high was hard, this grown up thing is a whole 'nother story.

-your wishing for a few more moments of simple friendships girl

expectations

this was our last weekend with the husband not being owned by college basketball so we had a great plan to make the best of it...this was our plan for today:

• meet friends at a local a 'public market extravaganza'
• check out the local botanical gardens that are rumored to be in full bloom

what we did

• woke up to a cold windy day
• battled allergies and headaches
• went to the 'public market extravaganza' which was a total bust
• took refuge at a mall that is showing all the pain of a poor economy

the good news is that we still have tomorrow, however I am now a little bit more realistic about my expectations and just hope for a nice afternoon nap

note to self: don't expect too much and you won't be disapointed

fb for mommies

so I am now an offical facebook addict, I might need rehab in malibu someday.

Last night I was thinking of all the status items I could have written for the day and decided that there should be fb for mommies, I honestly don't think the general public wants to know the tests and triumphs of our days but I feel like we need an outlet. So I am going to list some status goodies for my past few days, feel free to add a few of your own.

>a girl with an opinion wonders if she will ever get the priviledge of using the bathroom alone again
>a girl with an opinion wonders if her two year old could just stop and listen when she calls his name, just once
>a girl with an opinion wonders if she should stop being scared of potty training
>a girl with an opinion would love a day all to herself, doing nothing for anyone, nothing at all

I'll let you know if I start a revolution.

make new friends but keep the old

I have decided that there are few things better than having old friends come see you at your new place. Its been a little rough for us to make this home with all our familiar faces so far away, this was solved for us for a few days with a visit from some old friends.

I feel like I can't thank them enough for coming to us.

So note to self, when someone leaves the familiar and needs to see the faces of those who mean so much to them, go to them. Don't ask them to come to you. Let them share their new place with you and show you how they've tried to make it home, most of all their house will feel like a home with just your presence.

All you old friends out there, my hat's off to you. <3

liking not feeling like the minority

so there has been some fall out from my previously posted item regarding linking without thinking...ironically enough not more than a few days later I read this in Dear Abby. I admit it made me feel a teensy bit better. Read on.

February 10, 2009
DEAR ABBY: I am a private person by nature and avoid doing a lot of posting on the Internet because of it. My problem is a friend I'll call "Maria," who constantly posts pictures of our outings with friends on her Web site for everyone to see. The photos themselves are not embarrassing, I just prefer not having my face plastered all over the Internet. Most recently, Maria posted photographs from my wedding without asking me, and it really bothered me. I understand that she is an outgoing person who enjoys sharing details of her life, but I feel like my privacy has been invaded. I am not the only person in our group that feels this way. How do we ask her to stop posting these images without offending her? -- OVEREXPOSED IN SAN FRANCISCO

DEAR OVEREXPOSED: You do it by telling Maria -- with a smile -- that posting your pictures on her Web site makes you uncomfortable and to please stop it. If you don't have the courage to confront her one-on-one, then do it as a group. Should Marie "forget" and continue posting pictures you'd rather not appear online, remember to duck when she whips out her camera.

I do realize that this does not justify the assumption on my part in scolding a linking without thinking person, but it does make me glad to know I'm not the only person out there who doesn't want their personal business out there all over (hence the family blog being private, etc).

I've stepped off my soapbox, but didn't fall.

humor, I love it

upsetting the apple cart

so I vented my frustration on an individual on how I don't like poor blog etiquette. Linking without thinking. What is that you ask? It's this ugly thing that has become commonplace since the 'blog explosion'. You create a blog, it asks if you want to link anyone, there are blogs you visit so you think, I should link them. Then you notice that your list is short compared to others you have seen, or you notice how easy it is to go back to those blogs once you link them or you just want to share with everyone all the people you know. Everyone has their own reason. I think the whole practice is kind of silly, and if you have linked without asking the blog owner its one of the seven deadly sins in my little world (the others are: printing pictures from blogs w/out asking and not citing a blog when you quote it).

So I saw this dandy little blog linked on a blog of an 'offender' and I called them out. I was wrong to call them out because I assumed that they knew who the owner of this dandy little blog was. It was the wrong thing to do, assume that is. Let this be my public apology.

The whole point here is this: think before you link. Ask the owner if it's all good. Its not a popularity contest here, no single person will win an award for the most links (at least I don't think there is an award, maybe I'm missing out).

In the meantime, blog on.